Civil marriage is not a permit for premarital sex. It is a sin

By Chantal Bashal 

In his letter to the Ephesians, Paul the Apostle encourages believers to uphold good ways to imitate God. (Ephesians 5:1-2).

Paul mentions areas which are sinful and not acceptable for believers, especially sexual immorality.

The apostle directly discourages sexual immorality, a general term that can include sexual misconduct, inappropriate communication and pornography.

Today, young couples have normalized having sex right after holding their civil marriage ceremonies, and even worse, others don’t even wait for it. The moment they are declared fiancés, it’s like they have become husband and wife in terms of sex and related stuff.

All in the name of love which is really inappropriate, many get impregnated willingly, deceiving themselves that they have the greenlight to do whatever they want to do because they are done with the civil marriage.

Many young intending couples have been victims of premarital sex activities, and due to this, some end up leaving their churches because their pastors refuse to hold their religious wedding ceremonies.

So, these young people decide to hold their Unions away from churches.

Ephesians 5:3 tells us, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity…because these are improper for God’s holy people.”

Anything “hint” to sexual immorality is inappropriate for a Christian. The Bible does not give us a list of what qualifies as a “hint” or tell us what physical activities are approved for a couple to engage in before marriage. However, just because the Bible does not specifically address this particular issue, it does not mean God approves of “pre-sexual” activity before marriage.

By essence, foreplay is designed to get one ready for sex. Logically then, foreplay should be restricted to married couples. Anything that can be considered foreplay should be avoided until marriage.

If there is any doubt whatsoever whether an activity is right for a yet-to-be married couple, it should be avoided (Romans 14:23). And all sexual and pre-sexual activity should be restricted to married couples. An unmarried couple should avoid any activity that tempts them toward sex, that gives the appearance of immorality, or that could be considered foreplay. Many pastors and Christian counselors strongly advise a couple to not go beyond holding hands, hugging, and light kissing before marriage. The more a married couple has to share exclusively between themselves, the more special and unique the sexual relationship in that marriage becomes.